I am going to step out of my normal range of blogs and talk about something that I am extremely passionate about... Honestly I tend to watch what I say for fear of offending, but today I am going to set aside that fear.
The day that you had children- whether you are a biological mother, a biological father, a step parent, adoptive parent, a legal gaurdian etc.- you accept responsibility for them, you become their parent, their guide. let me break this down for you..
RESPONSIBILITY- You are from this point on in charge of making sure they are a decent human being, of caring for them both physically and emotionally.. This goes beyond clothing and feeding them. Children are not puppies people. They grow up to remember the things that you say to them. they grow up to remember the situations that you put them in. You set examples for them, are the person that they look up to. They listen to every single word that comes out of your mouth. They are then molded and shaped into adults by those words, those tones, those actions.
For the love of GOD, do your job of raising them. Quit focusing on what YOU want, on what makes YOU happy and take a deep look into your childs eyes and make a commitment to be a decent human being yourself. Your job of being a parent does not end when they are 18. You can't change your mind, you dont get a break. Being a mom requires my attention 24 hours a day 7 days a week, 365 days a year. I dont get vacation, or sick days. My job of being a good parent does not stop when my children are out of my sight, as it will not stop when they move out of my house. It may change as we age, but it will never stop.
There is always talk about how those who don't vote should not be able to complain about the way our government is run, well I feel that way about parenting.. If you dislike the children that you see in the stores, day care, outside playing etc., than take the time to raise yours properly! I can not change the way the kids behind my house behave, no matter how I try because I am not in their home. I do not control what they come in contact with, how they are disciplined, who they hang out with. . . What I can do is make sure my children never think that behavior is acceptable.
How can I sit here on my high horse saying that you ask? Because I have parents!!! They may have not done everything perfectly, I still dont agree with every decision they made. I dont have to. They care about me, and they took the time to make sure that I was not out doing what so many others did... I will not judge you for making bad decisions. It is not my place. But it is my right to express my opinion, and I am quite frankly tired of hearing people complain about all of the stupidity in the world while they sit on their rear ends not doing anything to change it. If you want your children to respect you, to obey you.. do something to be respected for... Quit trying to be their friend. . No matter how hard you try they are not going to like you every day of thier lives. Your world will not end because they tell you they don't like you. Make your children use manners, you know--- please, thank you, excuse me, bless you... Yes Ma'am, No Sir... Eye contact. With all the ugliness and discrimination, and evil in the world do your part to offset it..
We have ONE planet, ONE life. Yours is not any more important than anyone elses. Teach that, live it! Do you have any idea how much of a role we have today in preserving this world. Get your head out of your rear end and realize there are other people in this world who matter. Whose opinions matter, whose dreams matter. Who are we to say that our way is the right way? Damn people, be respectful of human kind.
End Rant
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